Holding space for people takes energy and time, and when this time is taken, it pays off.
In the days leading up to my latest retreat, I blocked time in my diary for preparation. I read through the registration responses as I considered the best way to support them. I scoured my bookshelves for the right references that may assist them in their place of need for their work. I cooked soups, fuel for the body and soul, planned the food shopping, shopped. I sorted my outfits so I didn’t have to think about what I would wear each day. I packed boxes of resources, power boards and candles. I cleaned my portable tables and loaded them in the car. I ran through my lists, once, twice and more times to ensure nothing was missed.
I took an afternoon to be still. To meditate and breathe. To prepare my mind and body. I set intentions for the time.
This last retreat felt different to last time. Each retreat has its own vibe. I didn’t know any of the writers on this retreat other than through our interactions or through our connections on social media. It was a diverse group of writers, and that this can be tricky so I wanted to be prepared for anything.
The week before the retreat, I attended another full day of coach training as I am working toward the International Coaching Federation certification. During that day, I practiced the traditional coaching format with other coaches and sought feedback, reflected.
It is important for coaches to prepare for each session to be fully present for the client. Every client needs to know that the coach is there for them, that their mind is not drifting to other clients or tasks.
The acronym SERVE sums up a coaching mindset
- Set an intention
- Eliminate distractions
- Raise perception
- Vividly imagine their results
- Engage with rapport
After each session with a client, I take time to reflect on the session. How did I best serve them? How could I have done it better? What worked, and what didn’t? How can I better prepare for the next session? Was I fully present, and if not, how can I ensure I am for the next client.
This process of reflection is part of the ICF Code of Ethics requirement of coaches to search for continued self-awareness, self-monitoring and self-improvement.
If you would like to shift your mindset from conflicting values, limited beliefs or trapped emotions to a mindset where you can achieve your goals and live the life that you desire, book a free coaching strategy call.
